Thoughts, stories, and the hilarity involved in dating

Thoughts, stories, and the hilarity involved in dating

Most hilarious of all is that most of the stories come from the online dating sphere which adds a certain unexpected element...

Wednesday, July 14, 2010

As I Approach 30

As I approach 30 (in 34 days to be exact), I've started to notice some things of which I'm just not a very big fan.  I'm not entirely sure they have anything to do with actually turning 30, but they certainly have to do with getting older.  I thought I would share.

  1. What is up with the random inexplicable pains?
    1. My knees hurt all the time.  It hurts to squat to pee for Pete's sake.  What the hell is this about?
    2. I get random aches in random places.  For example, my shoulder/arm starting hurting yesterday every time I lifted it and it still does.  Where did this come from?  I haven't played tennis or done any other strenuous activity...
·         Ironically (or in spite of), I used to make fun of my mother and grandmother for complaining about various aches and pains.  

  1. My sex drive is at an all time low.  Very strange for the girl that was ready at all times just a few short years ago.
  2. I hate exercise now.  I’ve never HATED it—might not have loved it but I did things I enjoyed.  Now the motivation is GONE.  (Side note—took ballet and dance for 15 years, used to go to the gym daily, took my dog on long walks, etc)
  3. I feel like babies are some unrealistic distant dream as is a husband.
  4. I compare myself a lot more to my friends.  This I hate—I’ve never been competitive but there continues to be this nagging feeling I am not measuring up: haven’t gotten established in my career yet, although I owned my own home from 18-26, I no longer do, and again no husband or children on the horizon.
  5. I am appalled at some outfits I see in stores.  What am I, my mother??
  6. I refuse to wear short shorts anymore along with really short skirts.
  7. I wonder if some of my outfits make me look old.
  8. Picking up guys at bars and getting hit on at bars is no longer fun and is mostly just annoying.
  9. A lot of events now seem very low key which has always been great some times but NOT all of the time.
  10. You have to plan out just about everything in order to make plans with friends because most everyone is so busy.  I like and miss spontaneity!
  11. I focus way too much on the future.

Any additions from the peanut gallery?


  1. I am 32. I've gotten over the hump. I almost lost a great guy completely because I was so focused on the future and comparing myself to my friends and where I did or didn't "measure" up.

    I have aches and pains everywhere.

    I find so many popular outfits absolutely ridiculous. My best friend did a "What not to wear" intervention with me and cleared out my closet of things that made me look too old and also what made me look too young. But sometimes I still rock the shorts because they show off the legs, and hey, I'm still single, aren't I?

    Within the last year, I definitely found my sex (over)drive back. So don't lose hope. Sometimes it's all about your lifestyle, your health, or even just the right partner.

    Embrace something new every now and again--you'll be surprised what you might realize you will love now. Change your routine up a little. Be bolder than you've dared once in a while, take some risks. You still have your whole life ahead of you, kid! :)

  2. oh my goodness! I'm 34 and having some of the symptoms mentioned :D 1a & b are so true. In fact I think it's too early to have those aches :p
    No 3- very true, my treadmill had gathered dust now..I used to exercise on a daily basis..
    No 4-12 so very true, couldn't agree more with you !!

    wow, it's a universal symptom I must say once we reached the 30 stage :D


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