A while back prior to Overeagerness is NOT attractive aka Mr. Grenada, the same girlfriend and I were out at the Epicenter in Charlotte. We were having drinks, chatting, and lounging on these comfy love seats they have at Mez. A friend of a friend of my friend was there and started chatting us up. He was cute and again, I was hoping he would have cute friends and again, alas he didn't. He did, however, have Jimmy. Jimmy is about 5'5" (that's being generous) and was convinced he was one of the most connected men in Charlotte. That might or might not be the case, but who goes around talking about it?
Jimmy and I are introduced. Immediately, Jimmy asks how in the world I can be single. I hate this question as most single people do. In fact, it is #3 in the top 19 Things You Should Never Say to a Single Person on MSN. Maybe, I'm too picky; maybe, I just haven't found "him" yet; bottom line, I'm not sure. I think I'm wonderful but I haven't found a special someone that I think is wonderful back.
I digress. Jimmy proceeds to go on and on that he is going to convince me to marry him by the end of the night. SAY WHAT!? I think to myself you are short, overeager, and clearly is too big for his britches--why would I ever be interested...YUCK! Somehow, my friend and I are unable to get away from Jimmy and Jimmy keeps berating me with how I'm beautiful, so worldly, and so shouldn't be single. This lasts until 3am. Again, I'm an idiot and give the correct phone number. (Why do I do this?) I also make the fatal mistake of getting pizza with him afterwards. At which point, he then starts trying to get me to go home with him. Friend has already left with her then boyfriend.
Compliments have certainly worked their charm on me before and have persuaded me to go home with boys that I wouldn't have usually go home with, but Jimmy and his talk of marriage has me literally contemplating maybe I don't ever want to marry ANYONE. Mind you--at this point, I'm almost 30 (now I've already joined the club) and marriage is kind of looming in the background (why aren't I there yet, all of my friends are kind of head talk). And this guy has made of scared of it! So home I head wondering where are all the normal ones?
Next day, he calls, texts, and finds me on Facebook and tries to persuade to A) go out that Saturday night B) we are perfectly suited for each other. I ignore the offers to go out but strangely accept the FB request. Fast forward a few months, I see he is engaged about 6 months after the episode at the Epicenter. How has he had time to meet, date, and get engaged in 6 months? Man, he seriously was on a mission and really wasn't kidding with me. Hmmmm...fast forward another 3 months, his FB status no longer says engaged and GUESS WHAT--he winks at me on Match.com. WTF--I have officially come full circle.
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Wednesday, August 25, 2010
Monday, June 28, 2010
Facebook is Not your dating friend
Mashable posted a story back in April about the 5 Ways Facebook Changed Dating (For the Worse). The reasons include
A while back, a guy I met on Match asked me to become friends with him on Facebook prior to our 1st date. I thought it was a little odd but there is the benefit of being able to check out other pictures, see what their friends look like, and see if there are any GLARINGLY obvious reasons why you should not go out into a public place with this person. So, like any savvy online dater, I checked him out. He seemed normal; we had things in common. He also picked out a place I'd been wanting to try. I thought a win-win.
We arrive at the restaurant and are seated. I'm wearing a cream silk short sleeve version of the shirt below. Somewhat sexy, but not terribly revealing and a big chunky necklace.
We order and start to chat. I notice he is gazing rather intently at my chest and finally he says something like nice necklace. A little annoying but we continue. He proceeds to tell me about his 2 little girls and ex-wife. Not terribly appealing convo but I guess, it's better to have it out there. He then busts out with he's had a vasectomy. Mind you, he is 35 years old. My jaw drops and I stutter excuse me, what? He repeats that after having his 2nd child, he and his former wife decided it was time to tie the tubes. I think TMI for the first date; WHY oh WHY are you telling me this; Are you trying to let me know if we do it, I'm safe??? Lots of other things go through my head and we've barely finished our appetizers. Now, I realize I'm with a TMI guy who will still not stop staring at my chest and there's nothing showing! Mr. V and I continue dinner but at this point, I have checked out. I still can't believe that this sort of thing comes up at dinner on a 1st date. Plus, there were no warnings from his emails, our conversations, or his Facebook page.
Finally, we wrap up and he walks me to my car. He tries to lean in for the kiss but I bob and weave and get out with a hug. Thank God! I get home and settle down on the couch and of course, start playing on Facebook. Well, what do you know, Mr. V's comments start to pop up along with comments from his 10 friends. The comments go something like this:
Mr. V: My date showed up in a revealing top so it was quite a nice view during dinner.
Friend 1: Women are always shoving their shit out their for everyone to see.
Friend 2: A girl knows when she's got her shit on parade. She must be a slut.
Friend 3: Was the date good otherwise?
Friend 4: Did you get any since she was obviously ready and willing to put out?
And on and on.
I would suggest not participating in such actions as it can back fire. Of course, the first thing I did in response was start posting on how he brought up that he had a vasectomy on a 1st date to which my friends responded WHAT!?!?!?! After a round of comments from them, I promptly de-friended him and moved on. He continued to email me for a couple of weeks. Needless to say, I did not respond and blocked him on Match. Fast forward a year, he sends me a random email AGAIN asking if we can go out. I receive this email around the same time as Mr. I Hate the South asks me to connect on Linked In. What's up with these guy in general but also what's up with a year after follow up? And why would Mr. V think I was want to date him after he and his friends talked shit about me on Facebook for not only me but the rest of the world to see as well???
- Over analyzing
- The Action Your Ex is Getting
- Breakups are Public
- Record of Relationship Mistakes
- Jealously
A while back, a guy I met on Match asked me to become friends with him on Facebook prior to our 1st date. I thought it was a little odd but there is the benefit of being able to check out other pictures, see what their friends look like, and see if there are any GLARINGLY obvious reasons why you should not go out into a public place with this person. So, like any savvy online dater, I checked him out. He seemed normal; we had things in common. He also picked out a place I'd been wanting to try. I thought a win-win.
We arrive at the restaurant and are seated. I'm wearing a cream silk short sleeve version of the shirt below. Somewhat sexy, but not terribly revealing and a big chunky necklace.
Finally, we wrap up and he walks me to my car. He tries to lean in for the kiss but I bob and weave and get out with a hug. Thank God! I get home and settle down on the couch and of course, start playing on Facebook. Well, what do you know, Mr. V's comments start to pop up along with comments from his 10 friends. The comments go something like this:
Mr. V: My date showed up in a revealing top so it was quite a nice view during dinner.
Friend 1: Women are always shoving their shit out their for everyone to see.
Friend 2: A girl knows when she's got her shit on parade. She must be a slut.
Friend 3: Was the date good otherwise?
Friend 4: Did you get any since she was obviously ready and willing to put out?
And on and on.
I would suggest not participating in such actions as it can back fire. Of course, the first thing I did in response was start posting on how he brought up that he had a vasectomy on a 1st date to which my friends responded WHAT!?!?!?! After a round of comments from them, I promptly de-friended him and moved on. He continued to email me for a couple of weeks. Needless to say, I did not respond and blocked him on Match. Fast forward a year, he sends me a random email AGAIN asking if we can go out. I receive this email around the same time as Mr. I Hate the South asks me to connect on Linked In. What's up with these guy in general but also what's up with a year after follow up? And why would Mr. V think I was want to date him after he and his friends talked shit about me on Facebook for not only me but the rest of the world to see as well???
Wednesday, June 16, 2010
I'm Not Trying to Flirt...then WHY are You on a Dating Site?
There comes a point in every online dating experience in which you think A) Am I really doing this? B) Why are people so strange? The following message makes me ask both of these questions.
No, no, no no.....lol. Uggggggg. You think I'm trying to flirt with you and I'm not. And that bothers me because if that's the way you are thinking then you must think everything I've said is just BS. It's not BS. I told you I don't do "fake." If I didn't feel it was true, I wouldn't be saying it.
Okay, maybe 1% of me was flirting, but I did not want you to lose the real message. The real message is that My thoughts toward you are simple. I think you are very genuine, very loyal, and very fun. Key words being genuine and loyal. Anyway, all I am trying to say is that I get the fact that you are special. So special that if you shot me down a million times, I wouldn't care. I'd still think you were a hell of a person.
Lee, YES, my God yes you are gorgeous. I can't deny that. But that's not why I am here. It' just not. I only hope on some level you can see that. Your head should be swelled. Someone out there thinks very highly of you as a whole person for who you are now. Not for what you "could become." You are very very special right now, all by yourself. And that's extremely rare for me to find. On some level I had to try to share that with you. That's all.
No matter what I say you're just going to think I'm trying to flirt. Terribly frustrating. Lol. (shaking head)
While the message in some ways flattering, I have some additional questions. How does this person after 1 email think that he knows me so well? And why are you on a dating site if, on some level, you aren't trying to flirt? Isn't flirting part of dating?
No, no, no no.....lol. Uggggggg. You think I'm trying to flirt with you and I'm not. And that bothers me because if that's the way you are thinking then you must think everything I've said is just BS. It's not BS. I told you I don't do "fake." If I didn't feel it was true, I wouldn't be saying it.
Okay, maybe 1% of me was flirting, but I did not want you to lose the real message. The real message is that My thoughts toward you are simple. I think you are very genuine, very loyal, and very fun. Key words being genuine and loyal. Anyway, all I am trying to say is that I get the fact that you are special. So special that if you shot me down a million times, I wouldn't care. I'd still think you were a hell of a person.
Lee, YES, my God yes you are gorgeous. I can't deny that. But that's not why I am here. It' just not. I only hope on some level you can see that. Your head should be swelled. Someone out there thinks very highly of you as a whole person for who you are now. Not for what you "could become." You are very very special right now, all by yourself. And that's extremely rare for me to find. On some level I had to try to share that with you. That's all.
No matter what I say you're just going to think I'm trying to flirt. Terribly frustrating. Lol. (shaking head)
While the message in some ways flattering, I have some additional questions. How does this person after 1 email think that he knows me so well? And why are you on a dating site if, on some level, you aren't trying to flirt? Isn't flirting part of dating?
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