The Alone Part of Being Single

Obviously in being single, one can tend to spend a significant portion of time alone.  This is particularly the case when one lives alone as I do.  I'm not a hermit by any means.  I date a fair amount and go out with friends, but there are many evenings that consist of just me, myself, and I plus my cute pup, Fabes.  I was raised as an only child and typically the alone factor isn't a big deal.  I've perfected the ability to entertain myself and, at times, crave solitude.  These cravings generally come after people filled weekends/time periods.  


There are times, however, when "the alone factor" sucks:


-Dinner time-I hate cooking for one and tend to avoid doing it.  There is simply no joy (for me at least) in preparing and eating at home by myself.  This leads to lots of eating out which can get expensive and isn't quite as healthy (given where I live) as I would like.
-I typically don't mind eating out alone and got pretty good at it after living in China on my own....Except when  your waitress looks at you with pity and says, "Can I get you a newspaper or something?"


SIDE BAR- I hate when I take myself out to eat and the food (specifically in this instance, spaghetti carbonara) that I make is better than the restaurant's.  Grrrr...but I hate cooking for one!


-When your mom poignantly asks, "You're going to the mountains alone for the night...by yourself?"  Yes, mom, we are in the 21st century and I can travel alone.  Yes, mom, don't you remember I moved to China twice by myself...so why is driving an hour and a half to the mountains by myself weird?  Last time, I checked mountain folk speak English and it's close--not nearly as strange as moving to China without a job, apartment, pretty much anything except my suitcase.  That didn't freak her out but going hiking and wandering in the NC mountains with my dog is somehow not alright.  


I'm 30 without a boyfriend or husband that means if I want to do something either I do it alone or I find a friend.  Finding a friend, however, is easier said than done--no offense to my dear, dear friends that live close and read this.  I realize they have their own lives and plans that don't always coincide with my whims.  So in being single, you sometimes have 2 options:  1) stay at home and do nothing (yuck!) 2) go out and do it by yourself.  I normally choose the latter unless I'm being lazy...I do love my couch.  I'd so much rather do stuff even if it is by myself than end up being a hermit and waiting for someone to ask me to do something or hoping that I can find a friend.  

Welcome to the 30 Club

Today, I turn 30.  I thought as I got closer it would result in me being more of an adult.  Maybe after today, it will.  The past 2 weeks have not indicated as such.  Let me explain...


I went to the Dominican Republic with my parents to celebrate.  I was supposed to leave on Sat., Aug 7th.  I didn't, however, get there until Tues., Aug 10th.  I checked my passport 5 times before leaving and read that it expired on May 10 2011.  Boy, did I get a shock when I tried to check in at 6am August 7th when the agent said it was already expired and I couldn't board the plane.  The next 3 days were spent calling and emailing my Senator's office, getting an emergency passport appointment, and driving to and from DC.  Fortunately, I have a friend that works in the Senator's office as well as personally knowing the Senator (I took ballet with her oldest daughter).  Fortunately, it worked out and I arrived Tuesday afternoon.  


I thought the vacation would be relaxing and it was after I arrived.  I thought there would (hopefully) be some stories as well, but alas being surrounded by families with children and couples doesn't result in such.


Fast forward to Saturday...I land in Raleigh and receive a voice mail that a very close friend had passed away in a motorcycle accident.  He also worked with me and helped me run my family's business.  Very unexpected and upsetting.  Hence why I've been MIA from the blog and Twitter.  


Sorry to be Debbie Downer...hope everything can get more back to normal soon....